You’re my brother You’re my friend
You’re my beginning and my end
You’re all around me when the world
Would turn and walk away ’cause
You’re my sunshine on a cloudy day
You’re the rain to wash my blues away
I can always count on You ’cause
You’re my brother You’re my friend


Brother. Sister. Arbitrarily imposed a friend to love forever? It doesn’t work like this. The bond between siblings is an unique relationship.

It makes me wonder how does is happen…? I met maybe two maybe three people in my life who said “I love my bro or sis and cannot imagine my life without him or her”. Most of them say that relationship with their sibling is just appropriate, nothing more, nothing less. But the saddest is when I hear that they don’t even like themselves and they prefer not to keep in touch at all. That is incomprehensible and unimaginable for me.

It is remarkable that children of the same parents can be so different. Both physically and mentally. Sometimes, however they are very similar. Can we say that the similarities attract each other more, and opposite less? No. In partner’s relationships people ask those questions all the time … does my future partner, husband or wife should be the same like me, should have the same passions, listen to the same music, like the same food, spend holidays in the same way as me?… or perhaps he or she supposed to be opposite?聽 It’s very similar in the relationship between siblings, except this that we don’t have a choice and are not able to choose brother or sister 馃檪

I was eight years old when my brother was born. I had the honor to give him his name. I named him Maciej. I was so happy and excited to have a sibling. I remember that throughout mom’s pregnancy, our parents talked very fondly about upcoming changes in our lives. They were telling me that it was the three of us for eight years and now nothing more will change except this, that now it will be the four of us.

All of our life we were growing up with a sense of equality, love and harmony. Our parents taught us this the whole time, non-stop, every day. There was no difference between us. Doesn’t matter Maciej was younger or if I’m a girl. They always treated us the same. They taught us that we have only ourselves and we have to rely on each other forever. It’s obvious that we had some disagreements between us. Eight years is still quite a lot of difference but that’s normal when you are a teenager. However, our parents words repeated at every step gave us remarkable and actual reflection in our lives. My brother – my friend. I can say it boldly, loudly and proudly. Despite the age difference, I feel like he is my twin brother often. Nevertheless, as much as we have in common, that much also divides us. Anyways, we keep in touch all the time even though we live far apart from each other, we enjoy spending time together, always have endless topics to talk and much more. We just like each other and I know that’s thanks to our parents.

Now, when I’m a parent I think about how many and how easy mistakes we can make but also how much influence we have for our kids relationship in a future. Our words, our behavior, our gesture are so important as kids are so absorbing. I will do everything what I can to make sure that our children will love and like each other as much as my brother and I. It’s the best award for parents and the biggest achievement we can get.

I love you brother. Thank you for having you.


Brat. Siostra. Odg贸rnie narzucony przyjaciel lub przyjaci贸艂ka do kochania na zawsze? To tak nie dzia艂a. Wi臋藕 mi臋dzy rodze艅stwem to niezwyk艂a relacja.

Cz臋sto o tym my艣l臋 i rozwa偶am jak to si臋 dzieje… Na swojej drodze spotka艂am dwie, mo偶e trzy osoby, kt贸re otwarcie m贸wi膮, 偶e kochaj膮 swoj膮 siostr臋 lub brata i nie potrafi膮 wyobrazi膰 sobie 偶ycia bez niej lub bez niego. Zdecydowana wi臋kszo艣膰 m贸wi o “poprawnych” lecz bez fajerwerk贸w kontaktach z rodze艅stwem, a cz臋sto te偶 s艂ysz臋, 偶e si臋 po prostu nie lubi膮, spotykaj膮 z musu, bo trzeba np. w 艣wi臋ta, a najch臋tniej by si臋 od siebie odci臋li. To smutne. Przesmutne.

Niezwyk艂e jest to, 偶e dzieci z tych samych rodzic贸w potrafi膮 by膰 tak od siebie ro偶ne. Zar贸wno fizycznie jak i psychicznie. Bywa te偶 na odwr贸t – podobie艅stwo bij膮ce z daleka. Czy mo偶na powiedzie膰, 偶e podobie艅stwa lubi膮 si臋 bardziej, a przeciwie艅stwa mniej? Nie. W zwi膮zkach partnerskich ludzie zadaj膮 sobie te pytania od zawsze… czy m贸j przysz艂y partner, m膮偶 lub 偶ona powinien by膰 do mnie podobny, mie膰 te same pasje, s艂ucha膰 tej samej muzyki, lubi膰 t膮 sam膮 kuchni臋, sp臋dza膰 wakacje w ten sam spos贸b… a mo偶e w艂a艣nie na odwr贸t? Naucz臋 si臋 czego艣 nowego, poznam inne, mo偶e lepsze, a mo偶e nie. Podobnie jest z relacj膮 pomi臋dzy rodze艅stwem, tyle, 偶e tu… nie mamy wyboru 馃槈

Mia艂am osiem lat jak przyszed艂 na 艣wiat m贸j brat. Maciej. Tak da艂am mu na imi臋. Przez ca艂膮 ci膮偶臋 mamy, wszyscy m贸wili do brzuszka “nasz Filipek”, chocia偶 nie by艂o wiadomo czy to ch艂opczyk czy dziewczynka ale ostatecznie to ja mog艂am nada膰 imi臋 mojemu ma艂emu braciszkowi tu偶 po narodzinach. By艂am wtedy na etapie ksi膮偶ki “Kr贸l Maciu艣 I” i oto jest m贸j Maciu艣, Maciejek, Maciulo – m贸j brat. Od pocz膮tku ci膮偶y naszej mamy rodzice bardzo czule m贸wili o nadchodz膮cych zmianach w naszym 偶yciu we tr贸jk臋 i o tym, 偶e opr贸cz tego, 偶e b臋dzie nas teraz czworo, to w sumie nic wi臋cej si臋 nie zmieni, bo zawsze b臋dziemy dla nich wa偶ni tak samo. Ca艂e swoje 偶ycie dorastali艣my w poczuciu r贸wno艣ci, mi艂o艣ci i harmonii. Tego uczyli nas rodzice ca艂y czas, non stop, bez przerwy. Powtarzali nam jak mantr臋, 偶e w ostatecznym rozrachunku mamy tylko siebie i musimy na sobie polega膰. Nie ma si艂y, 偶eby pomi臋dzy rodze艅stwem nie by艂o 偶adnych zgrzyt贸w. Osiem lat r贸偶nicy to przecie偶 niema艂o. Jednak te s艂owa powtarzane na ka偶dym kroku da艂y niezwyk艂e i rzeczywiste odbicie w naszym 偶yciu. M贸j brat – m贸j przyjaciel. Mog臋 powiedzie膰 to 艣mia艂o, g艂o艣no i z dum膮. Pomimo r贸偶nicy wieku, mam cz臋sto wra偶enie, 偶e jest moim bli藕niakiem. Jednak tyle samo ile nas 艂膮czy, tyle samo nas te偶 dzieli. Nie da si臋 jednak ukry膰, 偶e oddanie i ch臋膰 posiadania kontaktu, sp臋dzania wsp贸lnie czasu i nieko艅cz膮ce si臋 tematy do rozm贸w, to w ogromnej mierze zas艂uga naszych rodzic贸w.

Teraz kiedy to ja jestem rodzicem, my艣l臋 o tym jeszcze cze艣ciej ile b艂臋d贸w i w jak 艂atwy spos贸b mo偶na pope艂ni膰. Jak wa偶ne s膮 nasze gesty, s艂owa i zachowania, kiedy dzieci s膮 naprawd臋 ma艂e. Zrobi臋 wszystko co w mojej mocy aby moje dzieci mia艂y z sob膮 taki kontakt, jaki mam ja ze swoim bratem. My艣l臋, 偶e to najpi臋kniejsze dla rodzica czego mo偶e w 偶yciu do艣wiadczy膰.

Kocham Ci臋 braciszku. Dzi臋kuj臋, 偶e jeste艣.

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    Agnieszka6 years ago

    Wspania艂y tekst… Zostaniesz moj膮 przyszywan膮 Siostr膮? <3

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      Agnieszka6 years ago

      Co ja m贸wi臋! Siostr膮 Bli藕niaczk膮? 馃槈

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        Be Obsessed6 years ago

        Haha 馃檪 Ty m贸j bli藕niaku genetyczny 馃榾

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